Attention-Seeking Woman Announces Sister-in-Law's Pregnancy on Social Media, Plays Victim When Asked to Remove Post

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Oct 22, 2024 4:00 PM EDT

Welcome, women of the world wide web. Nowadays, most people tend to make their pregnancy announcements on social media. In the last few years, my Instagram feed has slowly filled up with old high school and college acquaintances posting blurry ultrasounds or posed pictures with their partners holding their tummies with a caption reading something like, "I can't wait to meet you in eight months!" While a bit more uncommon now, some people send out pregnancy announcements via snail mail to their family and close friends like Christmas Cards. Other, more scandalous people, prefer to make their announcements at big family events such as baby showers, birthdays, and even weddings.

The worst type of pregnancy announcement is the one that comes from the wrong person. Such was the case in our story today when a woman's sister-in-law took it upon herself to jump the gun and announce her pregnancy without her permission. Thus the pregnant couple received an influx of congratulatory messages from strangers and distant relatives before they even had the chance to tell the people they really card about. Get all the juicy details down below. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH u/rossimac007. 1d AITAH? Sister announced our pregnancy on social media before we did. I sided with my wife..
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    EDIT: Mandatory "wow i didnt know this would blow up" edit here! Thanks everyone for responding! And BIG thanks to the people who DM'd sharing their experience with twin pregnancies. I needed the metophorical slap in the face and this helped me realize things that I have been in denial about for most of my life with my sister. Just addressing a few common things that have been brought up
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    • Im 38 and my sister is 40 It wasnt that we were "keeping a secret". My family is here in the same city we live, her family is not. Her family also doesnt speak english so we werent able to tell both families at the same time. And it was the very next day that my sister made the post. Its the principal that someone made it public before we had the chance to tell all of our loved ones. My wife also has reasons for not telling certain members of her family yet that are nobodys business but hers,
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    So we found out we were pregnant at the end of August. In September we found out we were having twins. We waited until about 13 weeks to tell my family and asked them to not post anything until we tell my wifes family (they are all in Brazil).
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    Well my sister just chose not to listen and posted a huge "sentimental" post on her FB gushing about how shes so excited to be an aunt. This obviously upset my wife and also angered me. I called her and we had a chat. I shared that I was very let down that she chose to do something so selfish but also disregarding our request to not post anything yet. Her response was "I dont have any of her family or friends on my facebook so its not like i ruined the surprise for them.”
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    We had a back and forth and it ended with her being upset. My sister is a very emotional person and we have a very strong relationship, always have but I couldnt just let this go. My sister is now playing the guilt card and trying to make me feel for having to be an AH to her. Shes deleted the post now but the damage was done. We had distant family members reach out to congratulate us and also a bunch of randoms we dont even know. Its really upsetting that a bunch of strangers know about our pre
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    Context: Our twins are possible "mono/mono" meaning this is considered a high risk pregnancy. We wanted to be in control of people knowing because of this, and we had no intention of making a post on social media until WE were comfortable doing so. Yes we are happy and excited but we also need to be prepared for anything. 5,737 414 D D
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    Far_Information_9613 • 1d NTA. Your sister violated a boundary and is upset you called her on it. Now you know to tell her things last. ← Reply 6.3k
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    Ռոս rossimac007 OP. 1d So true. She did this to herself.. ... 2.5k
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    Grandmapatty64 • 1d If you're the type of parents that don't want your children's pictures on social media then you're not gonna ever be able to give her any pictures. Keep that in mind because if she didn't listen about this, she won't listen about that. ✩ 590
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    CaptainBeefy79 • 1d NTA, that wasn't her announcement to make. Your sister is a selfish brat who obviously can't be trusted with anything in the future. Reply 1 492
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    NTA. efgrigby. 1d Your sister sounds manipulative. There are several phrases in your account that are HUGE red flags. Are you mistaking being kept on a short rope for being close? Does your "strong" relationship with your sister benefit you both equally? Reply 327
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    Emergency Exit_4714 • 1d Please consider how often your sister does these sorts of things, then resorts to guilt and manipulation. At face value, it sounds like your sister has narcissistic traits, particularly by playing the victim to family.
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    NTA and my best advice would be to talk with your partner and come up with a plan together. May be time for LC or NC if needed, because if this isn't addressed, your sister will very likely violate your boundaries again once your babies are born. Reply 161
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    wendue • 1d NTA. It was not her news to tell. The audacity! Reply 71 ↓
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    xCupcakeCharm · 1d I agree. It's inconsiderate for your sister to share such personal news without your permission. You had every right to be upset, this was a special moment for you and your wife, and she completely disregarded that. You did the right thing by addressing it OP. NTA ... 21
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    NTA. Ok_Bit1981. 1d . Your sister centered this around her. Did she even mention you and your wife? Or was it all about her being an aunt? Doesn't matter, she still Her entitlement and lack of respect for the boundaries you set are beyond spoiled. And to top it off, she's refusing to comprehend the gravity of her actions and apologize. It might be time to distance yourself until she comes to her senses. Reply 52
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    rossimac007 OP. 1d She posted a pic of both of us with her long caption. Congratulating us and then expressing her excitement. She even said "it was a post to show you both how much i love you".... ... ← 60
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    Ok_Bit1981. 1d It was a post to center the announcement around her, without say it's about her. She knew what she was doing. 57
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    MyHairsOnFire2023. 1d NTA. Your wife's current medical status is NO ONE else's business unless she chooses to disclose it to them & even then that doesn't give them the right to go publicize in social media. The fact that your wife's current medical condition will hopefully produce 2 healthy children who will be related to your sister also does not somehow authorize her to publicize your wife's current medical condition.
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    Your sister was WAY over the line to post anything at all unless she had permission to do so from your wife. She was an AH just for that alone. But she is upgrading herself to a super-sized AH by revealing her narcissism. (She's actively trying to turn herself into the victim & you into the offender who did wrong. That's literally textbook narcissistic behavior.)
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    Instead of using time & energy being a narcissist AH trying to turn herself into the victim & you into the offender, she should be putting time & energy into apologizing profusely & sincerely to you & (especially) your wife for publicizing your wife's medical condition online without your wife's consent. She wasn't entitled to do that & nothing she says changes that. ... Reply 33 ⇓
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    rossimac007 OP. 1d These are the wake up calls i needed. I knew it but i needed to be slapped in the face with these. So thank you 23
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    BreezyBluejayo • 1d NTA. You and your wife made a reasonable request about when to share your news, especially given the circumstances surrounding your high-risk pregnancy. Your sister disregarded that request and made the situation more stressful for both of you Reply 48
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    Careless_Welder_4048. 1d NTA. If you don't take a stand now, she will continue to walk over you and your wife. I'm glad you stood up to her. Start telling people she's selfish. ... Reply ☆ 47 ♡
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    Որք rossimac007 OP. 1d This is the first time ive had to "choose a side" per say. I guess its just new and awkward for me Obviously my wife gets my support in this. Appreciate your words 42
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    Surround Miserable262. 1d NTA. Just reply to those asking why you made your sister take the post down...because she overstepped our boundary. We told her no posts. The pregnancy is higher risk and close family members still didn't know. She knew all this and still choose to disregard our feelings and stress levels for her own personal gain and is now playing the victim. This has resulted in her being put on a very very strict information diet.
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    Then I'd go low contact with her for the rest of the pregnancy. She has shown she care more about herself then you. Your wife and your unborn children. Everytime she guilt trips you put her in a time out. You need firm boundaries and you need to start them now. You need to be there 100% for your wife and children. Start setting and enforcing the boundaries now. Reply 16
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    Ambitious-Wolf-8935. 1d Sounds like your sister couldn't wait to spill the beans. I'd be annoyed too especially with the surprise getting spoiled before your wife's family even knew. At the end of the day it's your news to share and she jumped the gun. Doesn't matter if she's emotional she crossed a line. Family drama at its finest! You're definitely not the AH for setting things straight. Hopefully next time she learns to keep those excited auntie vibes in check until you're ready ... Reply 13
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